Children at funerals?

Children at funerals?
For a long time, it was believed that children could not understand death and well-intentioned parents simply kept them away when an immediate family member died. Yet, it is now established beyond a doubt, when faced with death of a significant person, children feel the same emotions as adults. They may express them differently, however. Of course, the majority of children under the age of 3 are unable to understand why their loved one is no longer there, nor the irrevocability of death, yet they experience grief or anxiety about the absence of their loved one.

Should we bring them to the funeral or memorial service?

For young children under the age of 8, several specialists offer to give them the choice after having explained what will happen and what to expect during this event.

Seeing the body of the loved one one last time can be a useful experience when the child expresses the need. If so, ask quickly, as it is possible without embalming, under certain conditions. 

Often, touching the urn and looking at the picture of the loved one can help recognize that they will not return. One or the other of these options is the starting point of the path which leads, in the long run, to a healthy integration of the loss.

Everhere events, suitable for children

Everhere offers a route for children affected by the death of a loved one. Accompanied by a significant adult, the child can become aware of death and receive answers to his questions through illustrations and words adapted to children from 4 to 10 years. The content of this explanatory course was designed by early childhood specialists and is submitted to the parent or guardian prior to the event. The adult also needs to prepare himself to live this course and the reactions he will arouse.

At the end, the child will be able to express what they feel through a drawing or words to the deceased person. Subsequently, a child’s corner welcomes the younger ones to allow them to relax the tension and have fun under the supervision of an attentive adult. If the family wishes, a small candy bar can be made available.

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